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Most wedding budgets miss 20-30% of the real number.

Service fees stacked on top of catering quotes. Gratuity on already-loaded service charges. Postage on save-the-dates, invitations, RSVPs, and thank-yous. Alterations on the dress. Day-after brunch. Welcome bags. Wedding-party gifts. Marriage license. The honest all-in is rarely the headline number — and it's rarely what couples are quoted. This tool puts every line on one page.

All-In
Not the vendor quote
Per Guest
Honest math
Hidden 20%
Fees + gratuity stack
Sensitivity
Guest count swing
YOUR WEDDING
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Basics
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Category allocation
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Hidden costs
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Bonus events
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Results
STAGE 1 OF 5

Basics

Defaults reflect a typical mid-budget US wedding: 120 guests, $50K target, MCOL region, peak season.

What you're aiming for, all-in. Typical range: $25K (lean / family) to $150K (full-service HCOL). National median is ~$30K cash + ~$10K in-kind contributions.
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Final body count expected through the door (paid + comped + plus-ones + kids). Be honest — most budgets die on optimistic head counts.
Region drives 2x cost variance. NYC/SF/Boston/LA = HCOL. Most major metros = MCOL. Rural Midwest/South = LCOL.
Peak May-Oct commands +25-35% premium on venue + catering vs Jan/Feb/early March/late Nov off-season.
Day-of only is ~$1.5-3K. Month-of partial is ~$3-6K. Full-service planner is 10-15% of total.
What this tool actually measures. The number a venue quotes is rarely the number you pay. Catering at "$135 per plate" is actually $135 × 1.22 service × 1.18 gratuity = $194 per plate. Service fees alone often add $5-15K nobody saw coming. This tool builds the full all-in, including alterations, postage, marriage license, day-after brunch, welcome bags, and wedding-party gifts. Then it tells you what you can cut without anyone noticing.
STAGE 2 OF 5

Category allocation

Industry-typical % allocations of the target budget. Edit any line — the rest will rebalance in the results. Numbers here are the vendor-quoted base; service, gratuity, and fees come in Stage 3.

Typical 35-45%. Includes ceremony site fee if separate. Higher in HCOL, lower in family-property weddings.
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Typical 25-30% of base. Service charge + gratuity layered on in Stage 3 push effective share to 35%.
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Typical 10-12%. The line couples regret cutting most often. Cheaper photographers are often false economy.
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Typical 8-10%. Most-overspent category. Architectural lighting + greenery beats elaborate florals on cost and photos.
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Typical 5-7%. Dress + suit + shoes + accessories + hair + makeup day-of. Alterations break out separately in Stage 3.
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Typical 5-7%. DJ is $1-3K, band is $5-15K. Ceremony musicians add $500-1500. Single highest correlation with "guests had fun."
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Typical 2-3%. Suite, save-the-dates, programs, menu cards, table numbers, welcome sign, seating chart. Postage breaks out in Stage 3.
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Typical 1-2%. Favors get left on tables. Welcome bags for hotel-block guests are higher-leverage spend.
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Typical 1-2%. Bridal-party transport, shuttle for guests if venue is remote. Higher for destination or rural.
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Day-of only adds ~3%. Month-of partial 6-8%. Full-service 10-15%. Will auto-fill from Stage 1 selection if left at default.
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STAGE 3 OF 5

Hidden costs — the practitioner layer

The lines vendors don't volunteer in the initial quote. Most weddings underestimate this section by $5-15K.

Why this stage matters. Catering quoted at "$135 per plate × 120 guests = $16,200" is actually $16,200 × 1.22 service × 1.18 gratuity = $23,330. That's $7,130 nobody saw coming on one line. Multiply by 8-10 vendor categories. The 22-26% service charge usually goes to the venue, not staff — and gratuity is still expected on top.
Catering load — service + gratuity stack
House charge layered on F&B subtotal. Often misread as gratuity — it isn't, and most goes to the venue. Typical: 20-26%.
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Discretionary gratuity on top of service charge. Often expected even when service charge is high. Typical: 15-20%.
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Varies 0-10% by state. Often applied to the service-fee-loaded subtotal, not the base.
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If you bring outside cake or alcohol, venue charges $2-6 per guest. Easy to miss.
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Other vendor gratuities
Typical $50-200 per vendor team × 6-10 vendors. Standard etiquette.
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$200-800 typical. Church/temple: often a "donation" $300-500. Civil/friend-officiant: $0-500.
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The forgotten lines
Dress alterations alone: $200-600. Add suit, mother-of-bride, often $500-1,500 total.
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Square or odd-shape invites: $1.20-2.00 each. Round trip × 150 invites can run $400-700.
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$30-100 depending on state + jurisdiction.
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$150-400 typical. Often required by venue. Covers liability, weather cancellation, vendor no-show.
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Typically $150-300 each before the day-of cost. Often required by stylist before they'll book.
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Bridal shower, engagement party, bachelorette/bachelor weekend if you're hosting or splitting. $500-3,000 typical.
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STAGE 4 OF 5

Bonus events & wedding-party

Set any to $0 to skip. These often blindside couples late — they're easier to plan for now.

Traditionally hosted by groom's family. 20-40 guests at $50-150 per head = $1.5-6K typical.
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If you host. Out-of-town guests, immediate family. $30-60 per head × 30-60 guests.
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$15-40 per bag × 30-80 bags. Bottles of water, snacks, local treat, schedule card.
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$50-150 per attendant × 6-12 attendants. Parents' gifts often add $200-500.
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Included only if you want it in the wedding all-in. Many couples track separately. $0 to skip.
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If separate from main photo package. $300-800 typical.
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The 10% buffer. The math will add a 10% contingency line in results — for last-minute upgrades, RSVP overage, weather backup, minor overruns. Industry-standard advice. If you can't afford the target + 10%, the target is too high.
STAGE 5 OF 5

The honest all-in

Total cost, per-guest, category benchmarks, and where the spread between your target and reality actually lives.

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This is not financial advice. Wedding costs vary dramatically by region, season, vendor, and personal choices. Verify pricing locally before relying on any number. Compounding-opportunity-cost projections assume historical average market returns and are not guaranteed.
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